Tuesday, October 26, 2010


there is a rope. in relationships. sometimes its an anchor, other times it floats back and forth, keeping time. but it's always there. the tie that keeps you tethered to each other. occasionally, i am much like an acrobat soaring without a net, never even looking down, balanced perfectly in the middle of my core, toes wrapped around. other times, i'm holding on, the end circled around my wrists, slack and taut all at the same time. regardless, i am attached. years ago, i chose this rope. out of all the fiber in the entire world, this one was strong enough for me.

the last few days have been especially focused, up close. bryan and i have been having conversations that remind me of the first weeks we were together, so connected and so happy to have found each other. we laughed the other morning in bed, stealing a couple of moments to snuggle next to each other before the baby jumped on top of us and reflected. remember when our biggest decision of the day was whether to sleep in or go get breakfast?

we talk about moving to a place where we can have some land. we talk about the lessons we learned in our past relationships and how thankful we are we experienced those things so that we could be these people to each other. we talk about the struggles we sometimes experience as two strong-willed independents who don't always know how to bend and we do our best to always talk it out. sometimes we go to bed angry because we both agree it's better than saying things we will later regret. we see eye to eye, hand to hand, and when we don't...well, we deal with that, too. we know it's not always going to be easy. but we know that nothing good ever is.
and we don't let the silly idea that we don't deserve each other pickle the fact that we are perfect for each other in every way.

the ring has been sitting in the house for months. i knew it was there, i just didn't know where. i could feel it, though. have you ever noticed that the promise of i will love you forever can warm a house? it lights the dark midnight hallways when you need a glass of water for the baby. and it guarantees the pillow will always have a cool side when you need it.

this morning, half naked and running a bit late for work, i hear bryan and finn talking. the door creaks open and finn walks up to me, arm outstretched. here, mommy.
in her tiny fingers, the ring.
wet hair and undergarments and i am aflutter.
will you marry me? he says.
i think i said yes.
(i made sure to say yes.) he puts the ring on my finger and i lean down to kiss finn.
mommy and daddy are getting married! yay!
she claps.
i turn back to bryan, my toes bubbling and my eyes glittering and my heart and mind throwing peace signs and high-fives and beads.

yes, i made sure to say yes.


  1. Oh my God! Congratulations, Krista and Bryan! You just made me tear up at work. :-)

  2. Having Finn bring the ring to you was sheer genius and pure unadulterated family love. She is the product of your love and honoring her with participation in one of the most important questions of y'all's life makes me weep with joy. I'm going to be a mother-in-law! Hooray!!! I love you my Kulisch family!!! Mom/Mimi

  3. It's a love I believe in - yours.

    Where the land? Where the land? (I'm an agrarian through and through, minus the superiority complex, but with an extra dash of romanticism.)


  4. Want to hear something funny? I never knew you two weren't married. You've always been so in sync with one another it was already a marriage of sorts, a bond irrefutably strong and sincere.

    Congratulations! The two of you are the grid upon with perfection is compared. (Hugs)Indigo

  5. YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Congratulations Krista!

  6. Happy tears! Congratulations!!!

    And my husband also picked the moment I was half-naked, late for something, just out of the shower, to propose...

    Oh my heart. It's so happy for you both.

  7. Ha! Me and my assumptions. Thought you were already hitched. Congratulations. Toe curling is sooooo under rated :)

  8. congratulations! i love you all three of you.

  9. Yay!!!! Congratulations :)
    (this post made my day!)

  10. yay!!!! congratulations!!!! so very sweet too

  11. I am a babbling mess Miss Krista (now almost a Mrs.) I love you so for you open heart and beautiful words, you deserve all the goodness in the world sweet girl. He got lucky;)

  12. First time I read your blog and I tear up! Wow.

  13. I am tearing up in happiness for you guys. Oh, Krista... you finally found a guy that deserves you. :)

  14. What a wonderful story!!! Congratulations to you three! Happy, happy day. I love your descriptions of your relationship. The first time I visited this space was a click over from a comment you left on GGC about your relationship. Nothing dramatic or revealing, but the way you wrote about it drew me here.

    Congrats on choosing the long road. xoxo

  15. Congratulations, Krista. How awesome. I love that you were in your underwear and that your kiddo got to play a part in such a wonderful moment.

    You always have such a way with words. I can hardly wait to see what this new development in life will bring out of you ;)

    I wish you and your family the very, very best.

    Hugs, Susan

  16. It sounds so wonderful! Congratulations and many more days like the ones above!

  17. So happy for you both! Congratulations! And may you have a future of love and happiness spread out before you three.

  18. congrats, krista! wishing you all nothing but the best!


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